we all know criticism can be lethal
especially in large doses
i need to improve on this front
Moshe, my dear friend, sent this over:
on the wall at the Schechter School (btw, i graduated from Schechter school in Chicago – class of 78 (reflections of the future) :
The NY Yankees win the World series in 6 games
mitsui is the MVP. of course, 6 RBIs in the winning game. Mitsui, the mvp, is the first japanese born player to win the title. we are becoming globalized.
notice the following:
how about Alex Rodriguez, or Rivera? A rod was pivotal in two pivotal games, especially game 4. and Rivera was part of every win.
it seems to me the underlying reason is the ‘recency effect‘:
call mom or dad and say ‘thank you’.
it is the start of the new year
and with it, new year’s resolutions
this is from Daniella London Dekel, well known for Chamudi
happy new year
if i will get requests, i will attempt translating this
10 years ago i had a plan
i had just finished INSEAD, considered a top MBA school, and perhaps the best out-side the USA, home of Capitalism.
MBA is where you learn to swim with sharks, taught that the purpose or raison d’etre of a company is to create shareholder value, and success is measured by numbers. usually with the ‘$’ in front of the number.
by contrast, at the Yale World Fellows Program, people are measured another way.
much simpler
how much have you helped others.
anyhow, learning marketing and as a young MBA, i came up with a personal development program, and i even branded it: “10 x 10″
work like a dog for 10 years and make $10M
it is now 10 years later. (actually more). and i can report that i get high grades. i did work like a dog for 10 years.
so much for long term planning.
i guess setting the right goals may matter more.
or perhaps the goal is not to have goals?
looking for my 10×10 plan, i ran into an email i sent in 1998, trying to report to a long lost friend about my top 10 events in the 10 year 1988-1998
it is fun to make such a list and recommend that you do as well
i will try to make one up for 1999-2009 in a future post.
anyhow, here is the list from July, 1998
Top ten events of last 10 years:
10. Summer eve, eating watermelon, after 3 World Cup soccer games and game 6 of
the 1998 NBA finals in one day (june 14, 1998). Our responsibility as sports fans sometimes is
just too demanding.
9. A week in Tuscany. living in a rented room with the locals. one hill away
from San Giminaiano. by the pool side. Drinking the house made Chianti (=$2),
reading a book . Knowing a great dinner is ahead after several hours in Siena during the bi-annual horse race, The Palio
8. Getting into INSEAD (fontainebleau, France =MBA) on the day i was told i must undergo a back surgery as a dislocated disc was harming the nerves leading to my left leg.
7. Ski in Val D’Isere with friends. great white slopes, blue skies, silence (despite a back surgery 18 month earlier)
6. The sand sea and sun of the Mediterranean sea, the colors, sounds and scents
of open-air markets, the dreams, hopes and laughs of night time conversation
with friends
5. working in Venture Capital
4. 1997 – france
3. the first 3 hours of Jan 17th (?). 1991 when Sadam bombed us. was in the bathroom
with Limor believing for a while that when we walk out alive, most people will not.
2. birth, living with and friendship with 6.5 years old daughter – Carmel
1. sharing my life with Limor.
birth of child number two (yuval-girl, 4 years old) and number 3 (gil – boy – 6
months)
michael wheeler, HBS
for his articles, press here. including ethics, rules change, and credibility
key takeaways:
emotions are contagious. they also reinforce themselves. smiling makes you happy
‘emotional wake’ the after-taste, what people remember after you left.
‘likeability‘ can be learned. based on four traits: friendliness, relevance (do you connect on interests or needs?), empathy and “realness” (genuineness or authenticity).
Jazz
how can people who do not know each other create music together. is there a paradigm here. jazz is negotiation
two anxious people could connect positively as well
emotions
emotions are not mood.
youtube rushmore bill murry herman meets max’s brother
they are used for interpersonal
are we good at interpreting emotions? trying to understand what others are feeling is difficult
seven universal emotions:
sadness, anger,surprise, fear, happiness
what about ‘nachat’ and ‘simcha l’ed’?
look at plutchik circumplex
good negotiator needs to be in 2 places both time. center stage, involved, engaged and on he balcony, observing. this cultivates curiosity, calm, creativity
book: ‘beyond reason‘, fisher shapiro: appreciation, affiliation, autunomy, status, role (identity). worth a visit
damasio: descartes’ error
emotions may disable decision-making but enable creativity
book: emotionally contagious
darren brown youtube russian scam.
book: fierce conversations. creating negative memory and positive emotions. very relevant about me:
“As a leader, in stressful circumstances, you may make
an off-hand, negative comment that might devastate someone who works for you.
Sometimes, you may not even be aware of the impact that your words have had. Often, you
forget the incident, but the recipient can recall your words verbatim. And long after he or
she has left your company, they will remember the negative psychological experience that
was created.”
book: Likeability factor.
adi’s emphasis/bias:
open
feel fun, (not calm) not anxious. calm is over rated.
detach
use breaks. silence is over used.
prepared – backwards induction. personal research.
trust your emotions
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about me, emotional afterglow, vs aftermath
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