“A photograph is a secret about a secret. The more it tells you, the less you know.”
trying to coin a new phrase for the following feeling, i shall call it ‘confusionism’. but as guy suggested it is perhaps better called ‘in be-twin’
Are you familiar with it?:
there are a set of twins somewhere in your family or in a close group of friends.
when they were babies, you could hardly tell them apart. once in a while you would find a way to differentiate, but next time you saw them, it did not work anymore. it was temporary.
over the next few years, you meet them every 3 months or so in some family function or friends get together. you try to find something that differentiates them, but it escapes you. the next time you see them they start talking. from now on, every time y0u see them, you try to find out something different in their clothing, then ask them for their names. for the rest of the evening, or afternoon, depending on the function, you can tell them apart if you can hold on to that thought, do not drink too much wine, or are not pre-occupied in your own thoughts. as they years go by, and they grow older. every time you talk to them you are under pressure.
‘who am i speaking to?’
‘ dani or rani?’, ‘zili or gili?’
should not these feeling have a word?
do you know what i am talking about?
in our home, this issue comes up as well:
my oldest daughter, and her brother, 6 years her young, have the same voice over the phone.
boy, it is really tough to tell them apart.
every time i call home, i am worried what if one of them answers and i get it wrong?
please send suggestions for how to name this feeling
confusionism! (for now)