Guiltar: a musical instrument whose strings are pulled by your mother. (Frank Mullen III, Aledo, Ill.)
i would prefer that the phrase becomes fill in the blank:
a musical instrument whose strings are pulled by _________
would love to hear from you how you fill in the blank. your boss? your mother? your wife? your friend?
it definitely seems that in some ethnic groups (jewish-polish) mothers and future wives have a ‘genetic treaty’ to perpetuate this trait.
if you subscribe to this notion, you may agree it goes something like this:
to be remembered as a good mother, and to fulfill your traditional role, you need to build a Guiltar in your kids, especially sons, so that their future wives receives them ‘mature’. it is then the role of the wife to strum his fate with her fingers, (killing me softly with her love) and prepare the future generation of guiltars with the young off-springs.
this is a serious task that must start before the child is able to defend himself or herself against this ethnic trait. it is best cultivated in the period in which the child starts understanding the spoken word, say 6 months of age, but before he his psychologically capable of fighting back, say at 5 years of age. note that in many jewish polish families this is the desired difference between the ages of kids.